Most men are not good at communicating what they want sexually. Often men feel the responsibility is on them to make a sexual experience fulfilling or a woman so they can be reluctant to express their own needs and wants. Added to that is the fact that men and women are wired very differently when it comes to what they enjoy.
Here are six things to know about your man that will really help his sexual satisfaction:
Men are visual. Why do men automatically look at a pretty woman walking down the street? Why do they like porn films so much more than women? It's because men are innately much more visual than women. So if you're trying to arouse your partner start with something visual. Dress up (or down) for him. Put on some nice makeup. Rent an erotic movie for you to watch together. Give him something nice to look at first.
Men like it when you talk dirty to them. To a man, there is nothing more beautiful - or arousing - than a sexually uninhibited woman. To have a woman let herself go sexually makes a man feel he 'has what it takes' to really turn a woman on. So when you talk a bit dirty to a man - whether in person, by phone, text or email - it makes a man feel proud to have had that effect on you.
A man likes it when you say he has a beautiful penis. Have you noticed that 9 out of 10 guys who put a profile on a singles adult website put up a photo of their genitalia as their main photo? All right, men know it's not the prettiest thing on earth, but they're proud of it. Carrying one of those things in your trousers every day makes you constantly aware that it is there so naturally we think about it a lot and men can get very self-conscious about it. So please pay your man a compliment and tell him it I the most beautiful one you have ever seen. He will love you for it.
A man's penis is where it's at. Yes men know you ladies get pleasure from being touched all over your body but frankly, for a guy being touched too much anywhere other than his genitals can almost be irritating. Once a man gets going with making love nearly all of his pleasure comes from 'down south' so please put most of your attention there.
Men are not naturally good at going slow. They've been wired biologically to spread their seed as fast as possible before the wild animals (or other men) arrive. So while a man is having sex he is subconsciously wired to feel vulnerable to attack. Men want to pleasure you, and they know that means going slow - just keep gently reminding him of that.
Men are not mind readers. They wish they were! In dealing with women, just think how many problems that would solve! But they're not, and knowing how a woman is responding can be very confusing for a man at the best of times. So please help him out - tell him what you like, what you don't like, what you want more of, and what you want less of. And he'd be delighted to do it.
There you have it ladies. Six things men would love you to know to help make sex with you better. Some of these things may feel counterintuitive to you. The good news is that men are actually quite simple and straightforward creatures when it comes to sex.
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Michael Andrews is a well-known therapist, author and counsellor specialising in couples' relationships, especially sexual relationships. He is the Director of the Love Sex Institute and produces the Great Sex Tip of the Day at http://www.greatsextipoftheday.com
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